The Pulse of the Plus Size Community

 

During Full Figured Fashion Week, I attended the Pulse of the Plus Size Community Panel, which discussed the challenges, trends and future of the plus size community. It was hosted by comedienne Erica Watson. Panelists were Jill Hutchison, Publisher and General Manager for Sonsi.com, Katheryn Finney, founder of the TheBudgetFashionista.com and CEO of TBF Group, LLC, Madeline Figueroa-Jones, editor of PLUS Model Magazine, Jennene Biggins, Founder and CEO of Voluptuous Woman Company, and Leslie Medlik, who works for Re/Dress NYC.

The “Plus Size” Label

The definition of “plus size” is a fluid one. Some designers consider anything over a 10 or a 12 to be plus sized. Considering the “average sized” woman in the United States is a size 14, this label is misleading. Jill Hutchinson said she gets asked all the time “am I plus size”? She stressed that “plus size” is wrongfully given a negative connotation, and that you are what you are regardless of the label put on it.

The panel had a variety of opinions as to the labels put on the “plus size” woman. Leslie Medlik‘s opinion was not to sugarcoat it, a plus size woman is “fat” and women should take back the word proudly. Erica Watson too had problems with euphemisms, noting that a “curve” is often a “fat roll” and that there’s nothing wrong with that. Jill Hutchinson preferred to focus on terms that will make a woman comfortable with herself.  Madeline Figueroa-Jones stressed the community should be focusing on the real issues rather than words.

Too often people get so bogged down in nitpicking over words that the substance gets lost. While I believe in “telling it like it is,” I don’t see any benefit in trying to “take back” a word with negative connotations. Many weight-acceptance activists who do great work and have wisdom to impart call what they do “fat acceptance.” While I appreciate how they bring attention to important issues, personally I’d rather see derogatory terms and slurs eliminated rather than “redefined.”

Plus Size Models

Plus size designers frequently fail to use models that look like the female customers who will ultimately be wearing the clothes. Madeline Figueroa Jones asked a manufacturer why it didn’t use plus size models of color. The manufacturer’s response? Customers don’t respond to “bigger, darker” models. Their research was based on a study they did in 1998.

A woman from Catherine’s was in the audience. She asked her employer why they don’t use models truer to their customers’ body types. Catherine’s told her they conducted a study and determined customers wanted smaller size models that they could aspire to be like. The size of this focus group panel? Only 25 women.

Charging More for the Same Thing

Retailers often charge more for plus size offerings that are exactly the same as their regular size counterparts. Katheryn Finney listed the litany of excuses retailers give: pattern changes, different models required (which they often aren’t even using), more fabric, and less volume in sales. She stated that the solution is to “support those who support us.”

The woman from Catherine’s noted that Catherine’s charges more for their larger plus sizes. Ironically, Catherine’s sells more of these larger, more expensive clothes than the smaller plus sizes.

Considering the large number of plus size women in the United States, the excuse that there is no clothing market for them is a feeble one. A woman who works for Fashion Bug stressed that the buying power is definitely there. The problem is that manufacturers make unattractive, ill-fitting plus size clothes. Understandably, women don’t buy them.

Stefanie Cunningham of La’Grace International, who is launching a plus size bra line in Fall 2011 put it eloquently: “Bras are supposed to support, lift and fit, not bankrupt you.”

Katheryn Finney opined that success in high-end fashion offerings has a trickle-down effect to lower-priced offerings, and encouraged the audience to support high-end independent plus size designers. The panel as a whole noted that designers and retailers should work together to make plus size clothing more readily available and economically viable. Continue reading

Ming Wang Knits-Quality Investment Clothing

 

While at the 2011 Full Figured Fashion Week’s Curves in the City Shopping Soiree, I found myself immediately gravitating to the jewel tones and beautiful prints of Ming Wang’s high end, activewear knits collection. As I examined the clothing on the racks, I was struck at how substantial and well-made their apparel was, in a versatile variety of lengths.  Ming Wang’s designers clearly know a women’s body. Their patterns, aside from their beauty, are intelligently designed to complement a woman’s figure.  For example, I love this black jacket (see above) from the Fall 2011 collection. Its vertical stripes elongate the body, while curved stripes on the upper torso draw the eye upward, flattering the shoulders. Next, I admired a black skirt that would enhance and skim the body’s curves without clinging. Ming Wang’s built-in slenderizer made of spandex in their pants allows for a sleek and comfortable fit.

I had the pleasure of interviewing Carolyn Wang, Merchandising Director of Ming Wang, who works out of their Dallas, Texas headquarters. Her mother-in-law, Ming Wang, emigrated from Taiwan to the United States in 1979, attended FIT, and designed for Adolfo, Lilli Ann, and Richtone New York before starting her own clothing lines. Carolyn herself is an FIT graduate, who worked as a designer for Ming Wang for four years before switching over to her current position.

Carolyn became committed not only to clothing design, but to designing for the fuller-figured woman when she was only fourteen years old. She grew up in an upstate New York blue-collar neighborhood, where her mother, who loved to sew, taught Carolyn to sew herself. When Carolyn’s cousin was getting married, Carolyn helped her mother shop for a dress for the wedding. Frustrated at the limited upstate New York offerings, Carolyn and her mother travelled to New York City to find a dress. Even in New York City, they had a horrible experience trying to find something that fit. Carolyn has designed clothing for her mother since then (lucky woman!). Continue reading

NYC Full Figured Fashion Week Is On Its Way!

2011 Full Figured Fashion Week is coming to New York City this week and I can’t wait!  Check out their website for a list of events. The events include a shopping soiree, panel on the pulse of the plus size community, and a runway fashion show.  Above is a picture of a beautiful dress from Igigi, who won best plus size fashion retailer at the 2010 Full Figured Fashion Week.

There is a dearth of fashion-forward plus size clothes out there. Designers who offer plus size clothing lines are in the minority. Retailers who used to offer plus size lines have discontinued their lines or shut down shop entirely. Other retailers offer smaller selections than  those for their “regular” sizes or offer their plus sized offerings exclusively online.

Much of the plus sized clothing out there is both unattractive and poor quality. Here are some examples after the jump: Continue reading

The Heat Is On-Exposing Our “Bikini Bodies”

Summer is here again. Once again, we are bombarded with pressure
from all sides to get our bodies ready for bikinis. Celebrity bodies are brandished as shining examples of inspiration. Gyms run specials. Magazines publish articles promising you washboard abs with their fool-proof workout diets. We look for the magic bullet that will give quick results.

Remember Chia Pets? Not only are they fashionable household décor
anymore, but people were actually using the Chia seeds to try and lose weight. Conclusion by the experts—Chia seeds are meant to grow in ceramic planters, not used as weight loss devices.

No Bikinis For Me

I’ll admit straight up, I don’t do bikinis. Quite frankly, except for those women with freakishly lucky genes or a personal trainer on staff six hours a day and a personal chef seven days a week, I don’t see how it’s entirely possible. At least not for me. I wore a bikini, briefly, during the height of my eating disorder. I was taking in around 600-700 calories a day, and working out 6-7 days each week. And I couldn’t remember the last time I had gotten my period.

I went to an event at the beach with the hopes of talking to a guy I was interested in. I looked pretty good except for a small mound of a stomach that refused to go away no matter what I did. I wandered around the picnic area holding my stomach in as tightly as possible. He came over when I was sitting on my towel and I immediately folded my arms over the ever-present roll that so mortified me. After he left, I spread out on my back on my towel like a corpse, the position in which my stomach looked its flattest.

I’ve since gotten over the whole bikini thing. I think it’s too much pressure for women, and quite frankly our time, attention and money could be better spent. The media can be hypnotic and it’s easy to get caught up on the quest for the Bikini Body Holy Grail.

Exposing Our Body Parts

Beyond bathing suits, many of us woman have express criteria about which parts of their bodies that they are willing to expose to the world. Many of us refuse to wear sleeveless shirts. Absolutely not, they say, jiggling the self professed flab on their underarms. Other won’t wear shorts or skirts. Their legs are too pale, they have cellulite, they have thighs as big as tree trunks that rub against each other. Yet others wear loose t-shirts they tug away from their bodies to hide their “back fat” or “stomach rolls.” We measure our bodies in bits and pieces, deciding what parts can be viewed and which need to be hidden.

Trying To Cope

My means of coping has been gradual. I’ve always worn sleeveless shirts. I think there are so many cute ones out there and they keep me cool. I’ve got some underarm sagging going on, which I want to work on.  So I focus on how I like the shirt, how it flatters my cleavage, and avert my eyes from the parts of my arms I don’t like. I’d really like to feel good about them whether I get them toned or not. Same holds true for my blinding white legs. I’d like for them to be thinner and more muscular. But it’s hot out. And there’s nothing I like more than simply tossing on a summer dress with a pair of sandals. Again, I would still like to see the beauty in my legs more even before I try to improve them.  Or don’t improve them.

Baby Steps and Pushing Out of Your Comfort Zone

I took a step forward this past week. I went to Lord & Taylor, where
I had a gift certificate. I found two adorable Michael Kors sheaths, a bit above the knee, lined with a bit of stretch to them. I don’t normally do sheathes. I’m more of an A-line, empire waist or tank dress sort of girl.

The sheathes are fairly fitted, skimming the body but not skin-tight. I can see a bit of upper torso and stomach fat, which my husband told me is not there (but that’s his job). But overall they look pretty good. I’ve seen other woman my size or heavier wearing similar dresses and thinking they looked great. So I decided to push a bit outside of my usual comfort zone.

My point is this—obviously most of us aren’t going to immediately go out and purchase string bikinis (at the moment, I’m happy with my skirted swimdress, thank you very much). That could change. But I think it’s important, even as you try to make changes (or decide you don’t want to make changes) to try to like the way you look. I’m trying, though I’m not there yet. Try to push your boundaries. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Why Vogue Italia Rocks

Brava Vogue Italia! The June 2011 issues features a stunning cover and spread of “plus size” models (aka curvy and looking like many of the average, normal woman as opposed to anorexic twigs). We need more of these body-positive images in the media. Check them out here.

Weight Loss Surgery for Fourteen Year Olds?

I was horrified at the articles I read today in the Sacramento Bee, ABC News, and the Los Angeles Times that the Irvine, California company Allergen Inc. is seeking approval from the Food and Drug Administration  for Lap-Band surgeries for adolescents as young as 14. They’re currently conducting trials on teenagers. The surgery is already being performed on minors whose parents give consent.

When I was 14, I was babysitting, starting to wear makeup, and getting braces. I certainly wasn’t considering letting a doctor put a foreign object in my body to change the size of my stomach.

While the lap band may help teens lose weight short-term, there haven’t been studies about the long term risks and benefits, particularly as teens’ bodies have not fully matured.  This foreign object would be in their bodies for much longer than grown adults and there is a risk of corrosion.

The surgery is reversible but that doesn’t negate the toll this surgery and possible subsequent surgeries could have on these minors’ bodies’ long term. Many risks are involved with this surgery. Allergan cautions:

“[T]he LAP-BAND® System is major surgery and, as with any surgery, death can occur. Possible complications include the risks associated with the medications and methods used during surgery, the risks associated with any surgical procedure and the patient’s ability to tolerate a foreign object implanted in the body. Band slippage, erosion and deflation, reflux, obstruction of the stomach, dilation of the esophagus, infection or nausea and vomiting may occur. Reoperation may be required. Rapid weight loss may result in complications that may require additional surgery. Deflation of the band may alleviate excessively rapid weight loss or esophageal dilation.”

Pretty complicated stuff. Will a teenager understand the long and short term risks of undergoing Lap-band surgery?  There is so much pressure in this society to lose weight. Teenage girls are still developing in mind and body, and learning who they are. They are exposed to peer pressure and often bullying. They may just want the “quick fix” and to fit in with their peers, at a vulnerable time when they are starting to date and come into their own.  It is also questionable whether this surgery is a “last resort” or if there are other options to be explored, such as a healthy diet and exercise. I know when I considered weight loss surgery [link to other posts] as a grown woman, I didn’t feel as though I received the guidance I needed, and I did extensive research on my own.

Dr. Ren-Fielding, associate professor of a surgery at NYU Langone Medical Center justifies lap-band surgery for teenagers by saying that:

“Lap-Band surgeries help promote healthy lifestyles because they initially take away appetite and improve a sense of fullness with smaller portions of food-resulting in weight loss….Once a teenager begins losing, they may become more comfortable in participating in exercise and daily activities.  They are both more physically able to do it, and less socially inhibited to try.”

If teenagers haven’t felt comfortable exercising with their more athletic counterparts, why not provide an outlet in which they can exercise without feeling self-conscious? I remember with residual embarrassment gym class and hiding out so as not to incur the laughs of my classmates. Enabling teens to be able to exercise without judgment is a much healthier and self-empowering approach than making them feel like they need surgery.

Personally, I am disgusted at Allergan’s (as well as bariatric surgeons’)attempts to make a quick buck off teenagers’ obesity. I worry about their long term physical and emotional health. What does it say about our society that we are willing to put our teens through such an invasive procedure in order to become thin?  What effect will this surgery have on teenage patients long-term, particularly if they don’t lose as much as they hoped or gain it back (which often happens even with adults)?

We should be promoting these teens’ self-esteem and acceptance of their bodies, and facilitating long-term healthy lifestyles, rather than making them feel they need surgery to “fix themselves.”

The Weight Loss Food Chain

I attended Weight Watchers meetings weekly for at least a year and a half when I was around twenty-nine. I had a positive experience with Weight Watchers and was very successful (at least temporarily). I was a card-carrying Lifetime Member, meaning I‘d met my goal weight and didn’t have to pay for future missed meetings as long as I weighed in monthly and stayed with two pounds of my goal weight. Weight Watchers recommends attending meetings for life to keep you honest. As I gained weight, I tried to return to meetings, but life and competing priorities got in the way.

What strikes me thinking back is the different “types”of women at the meetings. They came in all shapes and sizes and at various stages of their weight loss journeys.    

Newbie: The Newbie wanders in, not quite sure where to go and if she wants to be there.  She examines boxes of bars and shakes, cookbooks, pedometers and food scales—paraphernalia to ensure her weight loss success.  She fills her arms with one of everything.

A lady behind a table tells the Newbie to step on a scale, and hands her a white card with the date and her weight etched in ink. The Newbie gulps at what her weight should be based on the BMI chart (the Bible-equivalent in the weight loss world). She takes her seat and looks around, trying to measure the likelihood of success based on the appearances of the other members around her.

Some of the group members murmur encouraging words to the Newbie, while others take bets on how long she’ll last.

Gung-Ho Overachiever: The Gung-Ho Overachiever is on a mission. She sits in the front row, laughing, nodding and hanging onto the meeting leader’s every word. She’s tried every new low-calorie, low-fat recipe out there and has the food manufacturers on speed dial, ready to report any new diet food in development and the date it’ll hit the shelf.

When the meeting leader asks who lost weight that week, the Gung-Ho Overachiever’s hand shoots up in pride. She gets applause from the group and racks up gold stars, bookmarks, and other tokens for hitting the five pound weight loss mark, ten-pound weight loss mark and so on.

The Gung-Ho Overachiever has a secret sense of superiority towards those around her who haven’t accomplished as much as she has. She cringes a little hearing about those who have backslided, cheated, gained.  She wouldn’t, couldn’t be that person.

Some less-accomplished group members have the urge to smack her and force feed her a box of doughnuts.

Skinny GirlThe Skinny Girl’s life would be perfect if she could just lose fifteen pounds. Or ten. Or five. Some of the other women might be satisfied with less, she thinks. They might not even look so bad. But that just won’t do for her.

Many group members think Skinny Girl looks just fine the way she is. She doesn’t need to come to the meetings, nor does she belong. They think Skinny Girl should stop whining and jog on out of the meeting.

Lifetime Member: The Lifetime Member has seen it all and done it all. She’s lost, gained and plateau-ed. She nods at members’ tales of their struggles. Talk to me when you’ve been at this as long as I have, she thinks. I’ve got seniority over all of youThe Lifetime Member may have slipped and is looking to get back on track, or she may be at her goal weight and is trying to hang on, hands clenching onto the meetings for dear life.

I’m not going to have to struggle like that forever, other members of the group think. I hope I don’t have to struggle like that forever.

Underachiever: The Underachiever wants to be inspired by the success stories around her. But really, she’s a little bit sick of the people around her. If you’ve reached your goal, go home. All the clapping and cheerleading is starting to hurt her ears.

I did everything right, she thinks. What do they have that I don’t? I’m wearing lighter clothes next week for the weigh-in. And I’m definitely not eating before the meeting.

The Danger of Stereotypes

All of these stereotypes are just that, of course. None of us can be put into boxes, and we don’t know what is in other women’s’ heads.

But there’s a common thread that ties the stereotypes together, as well as women who struggle with their weight and/or body image issues in the “outside world”:

  • Jealousy-Assumptions that it’s easier for other women to be thinner than you.
  • Envy-Assumptions that women thinner than you couldn’t, or shouldn’t, worry about how they look.
  • Fear-Fear that you won’t be able to lose the weight, or be able to keep it off. Fear that you don’t have the discipline and willpower that other women seem to have.

Losing weight and maintaining weight loss can be tough. And we are all so tough on ourselves. We don’t always see our bodies the way other people do. Self-loathing and judgment of other women accomplish nothing but to tear all of us down.

Support others and respect where they are at. Go easier on them. And yourself.

Obese, Poor and In Need of Health Care? Arizona Wants to Penalize Medicare Recipients.

According to a recent New York Times article interviewing Monica Coury, spokeswoman for Arizona’s Medicaid program, Arizona can’t adequately finance its Medicaid program. State Governor Jan Brewer (pictured above)has proposed a plan requiring federal approval to impose a $50 annual fee on childless adult recipients who either smoke or are overweight.

Arizona’s “Justification”

Coury justifies the fee, citing by way of example a program already in place for Arizona’ Maricopa County workers:

“Maricopa…has started a program among its employees where smokers have to pay $450 more for health insurance than non-smokers.  They take a swab to detect nicotine.  The bottom line is that there’s plenty of evidence and studies that show there is an undeniable link between smoking and obesity and health care costs.”

Swabbing to detect nicotine?  What’s next? Daily weigh-ins?  Further, Arizona is ignoring all of the other things contributing to rising health care costs. The sky-rocketing costs of prescription drugs in the United States compared to what other countries pay.  The aging of the population.  Perhaps the elderly should be cut off for deigning to live for so long.  Malpractice insurance costs continue to rise.

Discriminatory? Coury doesn’t think so, instead calling it a “matter of fairness.”  She said since there is a budget crisis “if there’s something you can do to help out—we’re just asking you to put a little more back into the system.”

Will Fifty Dollar Fees From Poor Fat People Balance Arizona’s Medicaid Budget?

Ironically, when Coury was asked by the New York Times whether this fee would be sufficient to offset Arizona’s Medicaid fund budget crisis, she admitted Arizona hasn’t “done the math, but it’s not about how much we would collect.” So Arizona hasn’t crunched any numbers to see whether this fee would have any effect on their Medicaid fund budget problems, the reason cited for imposing the fee. Nor have they provided any indication they’ve done a cost-benefit analysis to determine the efficacy and profitability of implementing such a program.

Fifty Dollar Fine Will Get Those Fat Poor People Off Their Couches

But Coury does reveal Arizona’s true motivations, telling the NYT interviewer that “what we want to test is whether making people pay is going to affect behavior. We think it will.”  Her justification is that “[i]t is totally about testing the efficacy of this strategy. Obesity is costing us billions in health care costs, so our thought is ‘let’s test some of these strategies.’”

Coury states charging an annual fee will motivate Medicaid recipients to lose weight. She cites no studies or evidence to support the efficacy of this belief. Her feeling is that this fee will give a wake-up call to “able-bodied people who have the capacity to manage their weights.”  If only charging a fee were so easy. The entire weight loss industry, into which unspeakable amounts of money Americans pump money into annually, would be turned on its head and have to close up shop.

Should “Preventative Medicine” Provide Incentives Or Penalties?

On the flip side, a federal grant program created under the Affordable Care Act is offering states $100 million to reward Medicaid recipients who make an effort to adopt healthy measures such as quiting smoking or losing weight.

“One way to encourage difficult changes in life habits such as overeating or smoking, research has shown, is to offer economic incentives to those who reach stated goals. With that in mind, CMS will encourage states to adopt such strategies as rewarding Medicaid enrollees who meet goals established for them such as weight loss, smoking cessation or diabetes prevention or control. Rewards could range from direct cash incentives, gift cards to grocery stores or other retailers, reduced Medicaid program fees (if any apply) or offering services not normally available through Medicaid.”

In other words, the Federal grant program’s approach is to provide an incentive to become healthier rather than punishing those deemed to be unhealthy.

Similarly, New York City recently initiated the Green Cart Initiative to combat the lack of healthy food options in poor neighborhoods.  Many of those neighborhoods lack supermarkets and the bodegas have a very limited and expensive selection. Fast food restaurants are prevalent in these areas and calorie-dense foods contributing to obesity are often the only affordable option. New York City is issuing permits for mobile carts selling fruits and vegetables in areas where consumption of fruits and vegetable are low.  Through $1.5 million grant from the Laurie M. Tisch Illumination Fund, the initiative also includes an array of supports to help vendors succeed in their new businesses.

The theory of preventive medicine is to cut off health issues at their beginning stages before they develop into more chronic, serious problems.  This makes sense both for the individual patient and the insurers’ bottom lines. The federal government’s incentives, New York City’s initiative, and Arizona’s proposed “fee” are touted as measures towards this goal.  But at least the federal governments’ and New York City’s approaches are providing resources to facilitate this goal. Conversely, Arizona is simply saying “get your act together or pay up.”

Cutting Poor Fat People Off Medicaid Is One Way To Get Arizona’s Medicaid Fund Budget In Check

And what happens to those individuals who can’t afford to pay the fee?  Presumably, they’d no longer be eligible for benefits. After all, Coury cited one of the long-term goals of Arizona’s Medicaid program to change eligibility from an

“open-ended entitlement program to one that that the state manages based on available funding, which means we can freeze the program and then open the program back up should we come into additional funds.”

Reading between the lines, Arizona’s Medicaid program simply has too many recipients receiving benefits. And if they can find a legal way to unload some of who they consider to be the “undesirables” and improve their bottom line, they will enact any means necessary. This is perhaps the real motivation they are glossing over.

In a nutshell, Arizona is looking for a scapegoat to blame for skyrocketing health care costs and the overweight serve as the perfect subjects.  Particularly when they are poor and can’t fight back. Fifty dollars might not seem like so much. But when you are living on a low income, that $50 means a lot.

Besides, in the words of Coury, it’s a “matter of fairness.”

Would You Trade a Year of Your Life To Be Thin?

According to the ScienceDaily, a UK study conducted by the eating disorder charity The Succeed Foundation, in partnership with the University of the West of England conducted a survey on university campuses around the UK asking that very question.

The answer was that 30% of the women surveyed said they would trade a year of their live to achieve their ideal body weight and shape.

It’s easy to be cavalier about a year of one’s life.  Eh, I’ll never miss what I didn’t have. I’ll have plenty of other years.  It would be worth it to be thin.

But you can die at any time.  Life is too short and there’s so much to do.  A lot happens in a year.  You could meet the love of your life.  Spend time with your grandchild.  Travel.  Read a lot of amazing books, listen to great music. Make a lasting impact in someone’s life.  Learn something new that will have a lasting impact on your own.  Our lives are too precious to spend dwelling on having the perfect body.

What Else Were They Willing to Give Up?

During the life they were living, women were also willing to sacrifice their careers, financial well-being, academic success and interpersonal relationships.  26% of the women were willing to sacrifice (1) salary cuts, (2) job promotions, (3) graduating with honors, (4) spending time with family, friends, and/or their partner, and/or (5) their health.

The implication is that somehow your life is less worth living if you don’t have the perfect body.  And that body size trumps other aspects of awoman’s life. Notably the survey didn’t ask about having a healthy body, it asked about ideal body weight and shape.  Having an ideal body size doesn’t necessarily translate into ideal health.  7% were even willing to sacrifice their health for the perfect body.

How Did They See Their Bodies?

A whopping 79% of the women wanted to lose weight, even though 78.37% of the women survey were actually within the underweight or normal weight ranges. 93% had had negative thoughts about their bodies during the past week, and 31% had such thoughts several times a day.

Nearly 40% would have cosmetic surgery if they could afford it.  Of this group, 76% desired multiple procedures.

One in two women said that more needs to be done on their university campus to promote healthy body image.  Their opinion is well-founded and abundantly clear.  The time to promote healthy body image is now.

Can “Fat” Women and “Thin” Women Be Friends?

Liza Palmer’s Conversations With The Fat Girl is an excellent novel about how body-related issues can affect a friendship.  In this novel, Maggie and Olivia have been friends since they met as two overweight twelve years in gym class. At first Maggie, the narrator, avoided Olivia.  She didn’t want to affiliate herself with Olivia and have the two of them be known as the two fat girls.  But they eventually became inseparable.

As an adult, Olivia has gastric bypass surgery and goes from a size 22 to a size 2.  Fast forward five years from Olivia’s surgery and she gets engaged and asks Maggie to be her maid of honor. Olivia is absorbed in her wedding plans and only contacts Maggie when she needs her to do something wedding-wise.  And Olivia has many exacting demands about what she wants done.

Typical brideszilla?  At first glance, maybe.  But Maggie starts to get the feeling that the problem is something larger. Olivia has all new and thinner friends, and neither her new friends nor her fiancé know about her former, larger self.  Maggie feels that maybe Olivia wants her to be part of the past she has shed along with her weight.  Maggie becomes the holder of secrets regarding Olivia’s past life, and knows the truth about how she’s revised history in her stories to her new friends and fiancé.

While Maggie tries to be a loyal and good friend, she starts to feel like Olivia feels she is superior to Maggie.  Are Maggie’s assumptions correct?  Or is Maggie being oversensitive because of her own insecurities?  You’ll have to read the book to find out.

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